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Should gentlemen be banned from us receiving them on consistent no call/no show?  

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  1. 1. Should gentlemen be banned from us receiving them on consistent no call/no show?

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Do you think that consistent no-shows, you know the ones, those that book and have zero intention of showing up, should be blocked/reported by those of us that keep receiving these requests?

 

Post yes or no in the poll, and leave a comment if you wish, as I'm interested in opinions on this.

 

This has been a bad year of consistent no call/no show jerks that tie up valuable time and effort, when that time and effort could be put to good use elsewhere.

 

I don't know if they realize it or not, but when consistent nc/ns are abound, it makes us very wary and has our screening processes tightened a little more.

 

I can't speak for every lady on this site, but I'm pretty sure that if any one of us were having to cancel/reschedule an appointment, we would do so asap and let the gentleman know.

 

Have the same courtesy for the ladies.

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Absolutely.

 

Any business person has the right to put in place policies to keep clients from wasting their time. You could require an e transfer deposit to secure an appointment from someone who has been a no show in the past, or, more simply black list them.

 

Whether you want to circulate their information and form a collective black list is probably a bit more controversial. I would hope that such a list exists for clients who have behaved inappropriately or made a provider feel threatened or unsafe, but for simple asshattery it might be overkill.

 

Time wasters do occur on the other side of things, and I'm certain most gentlemen simply don't attempt to rebook with someone who has been unreliable.

 

My two cents.

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Although your idea of a shared list is very good, I would be frisky about such a list, due to privacy matter.

 

Of course, if a sp is inquiring about a client regarding nc/ns, I will be 100% honest. But to call everyone I know to complain is just a no-go.

 

For the first no-show, I would give the benefice of the doubt. But at the second, no wonder what justification a client can come with, I blacklist.

 

I did not have a single ns in over two years, and I gatter mostly to my regulars, rarely accepting new clients.

 

This can bring an sp's buisness down and has to be dealt with seriously...

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Yes we all experience this inconsistent bs and it is very annoying and time consuming

When a gentlemen that I haven't yet seen inquires about a booking I honestly do not go out of my way and get ready until he is in my location

 

When they do book and end up being a No show I block their #

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Everyone has an issue now and then, but you said "consistently", in that case tell them to get lost.

 

Winnipeg has a ton of no call/no shows and it really hurts a lady's business.

 

If he desperately wants a second chance he can pay in advance by email transfer or cc to demonstrate good faith. And maybe a bit extra to compensate her for her wasted time and effort.

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Yes it happens and to us all wether it's a gentlemen booking with a lady and doesn't show (without cancelling) and even some girls booking appointments and the guys not hearing back from them

 

It's frustrating especially when you could have booked with someone else

 

I do understand sometimes life happen but there are alot that book with no intention on coming smh

 

will never understand it .. I stopped trying to

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Escorting is a business, maybe specific one but still business. And pretty standard business rules should be applied. If some client wants to book again after "no show", he must pay some reimbursement for that, let say 50% or more (???) extra. I think it would be fare. If "no show" second time, he should be blocked and included in the any possible black list.

Just my opinion.

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One of my first calls as a hobbyist was to n SP in Hamilton, but I got cold feet and didn't go. She called me and reamed me out for wasting her time and costing her money. It was a lesson in common courtesy that I never forgot and never repeated.

I would guess that in the business there is a lot of "window shopping" that happens so, Absolutely block their calls and spread the word but only if it is a definite appointment.

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I'm sorry but if I were to schedule an appointment with a lady, and had to miss that appointment due to "my" unforseen circumstances I would expect to compensate that lady for her time regardless.

 

Most businesses have cancellation polices in place; which can be up to the full rate for the service with cancellations made in less than 24 hrs of the scheduled appointment.

 

For example, when one of my clients schedules me to go to the project site; I go to the project site to find out that they are not prepared for my visit and leave, they still receive an invoice for my time and will subsequently pay for a second visit to the project site.

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If he desperately wants a second chance he can pay in advance by email transfer or cc to demonstrate good faith. And maybe a bit extra to compensate her for her wasted time and effort.

 

Oh I like this! There should be penalties for no showing or cancelling on short notice. Make him prepay the next booking and/or a cancellation fee. He will either pay and demonstrate he is not a time waster or he will find an excuse and not pay.

 

Either way your time won't be wasted again.

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Oh I like this! There should be penalties for no showing or cancelling on short notice. Make him prepay the next booking and/or a cancellation fee. He will either pay and demonstrate he is not a time waster or he will find an excuse and not pay.

 

Either way your time won't be wasted again.

 

I would agree with Erica that requiring prepayment for such clients would soon eliminate the real time wasters, while not excluding those who are serious, but had a legitimate excuse for a missed appointment.

 

In any case, if it happens more than once, the client should be blacklisted as he is likely wasting other provider's time as well as yours and giving client's in general a bad name.

 

I have heard that some women who travel may refuse to work in a city if the no-show rate is too high, as they can not afford that loss of income. A no-show demonstrates a lack of respect for the livelihood of the wonderful women in this profession!

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If someone wastes my time just once , their number is blocked and I won't give them a second chance to waste my time again. They showed their true colours the first time. This is usually with potential new clients. Yes, life happens but a quick text or phone call takes a minute. If it was something serious then if he is a true gentleman, HE should offer to pay for her time wasted.

 

I don't bother getting into it with time wasters who try for a second round because a) you don't know who you're dealing with and b) the waste of energy that it entails being upset about it is time you never get back.

 

The problem with requesting a cancellation fee just gives these time wasters more ammunition to string the SP along and waste her time again. If one considers the source, they showed no regard for the SP and no showed her. Why would they pay a cancellation fee? This may be a good way to get rid of them for the short term but it is also a way for these people to keep the conversation going which is what they want. This is more time an SP won't get back by arguing back and forth as to why they feel shouldn't pay the fee. Two words- block them.

 

While annoying and upsetting as it is, these type of guys at the end of the day just don't care so why should an SP? It's their loss and they shouldn't get a second chance. I've heard many excuses and things do happen in life but it is a case by case basis. If it's a regular and they are doing it more than once, I will talk to them about it and give them a second chance but if they keep cancelling, I will drop them as a client.

 

These type of clients who are already friendly with an SP can be the worst offenders because you have already placed your trust in them but excuse after excuse just isn't believable anymore. Either the person isn't truly making the commitment to see the SP for various reasons or they like the idea of visiting in theory but just don't put it high on the list of their priorities.

 

For me personally, I don't even bother to try and understand. There are many more clients out there who won't waste an SP's time.

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thank you everyone for your comments and voting.

 

I have tightened my screening a lot more since this.

I have found that if you have booked with me once and ncns, I may give you a chance, but twice, then it's a complete blocking from calling/text & from email.

 

I value my time, and in my time I have to schedule for such things as shopping, social time, sleep time, work time, play time and just plain 'me' time.

Yes I love my 'playtime' with guests, but guests that wish to waste my time will not be gracing my presence.

 

A lot of effort goes into scheduling, booking, making sure my location is neat, clean & fresh.

Just as any other professional service, we make ourselves available for you at certain times.

If you cannot make your designated appointment, be courteous, let us know.

 

I have only ever had to cancel one appointment in the years that I have been providing this, and it was because I was involved in an accident (a real one).

Not only was the gentleman gracious enough to forgive me for cancelling our time together once I told him what happened, but he covered my hotel bills because I had to stay longer than I had planned in that city. It was generosity without reciprocation and I feel truly blessed that there are real gentlemen out there that feel this way about us.

That gentleman is someone that I will always make time whenever possible :-)

 

As for the consistent ncns guys, they will soon find out that not one girl will want to see them when they have ran through the list and have exhausted it. We do remember great experiences and really bad ones.

It's the ncns that I have a on a personal block list that I will never see.

 

Thank you again to this community on Lyla, your input is fabulous :-)

 

 

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