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    Artsy, honest to a fault, a hipster minus the hip, aloof, obsessive, genuine but hard to read, well traveled, well read, left wing, left handed, community oriented yet socially inept, anxious, asymmetrical, cosmetically questionable, animal enthusiast, Strong opinioned but weak minded.

    An enigma. Being solved. thanks to the companionship of a holistic minded provider :)
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    An enigma looking to be solved. Seeking quality companionship of a holistic nature.
  1. I have been to Nepal once but I have experienced it twice. Having stood and documented Bhaktapur Square, stayed with families in [FONT="]Bishnu Paduka[/FONT], slept in huts made of mud, dung, and hay, and witnessed a caste system that ranges from destitute to poorâ?? one has got to question where Shivaâ??s heads are at. No offence to Hinduism, or Shiva, or the six-headed. The destroyer, we got it the first time. These are some of the kindest, generous, most welcoming people I have ever met. They can see the meaning in a single grain of rice. Heartbreaking. Additional Comments: Oh and here is the fun/happy general Canada part. A very generous provider used her tip fund to match my donation. I really should of asked first though. Will have to get creative. Iâ??m thinking either a delicious bass or a wooden pickle.
  2. An excellent choice. The screen may feel big at first but in three weeks you will wonder how you did without it. While traveling in Asia, 20% was Note or bigger. Most users were woman. The men were all about appleand man did they love the white model. Oh and the engravings were always references to soccer players. "Park Ji Sung fighting!" I will do the same when they announce the Note 5. September announcement means N4 prices should fall late summer-early fall. I might consider the 5 but I figure it will be a 5.5-6 inch s6edge. Anyways, enjoy the phone. Did you play with the S6 at all? Again too small for me but that has to be the best screen I have ever seen.
  3. Stick with Android (as you know it) and look for something similar in size. I'm still using the Note II and as it does everything I need it to. The s6 is beautiful but it felt too small. Holding out for the Note 5. Pocket Office = Note, Nexus, LG G3 Pocket Office for smaller hands = Samsung S, Alpha, m9, BB My opinion.
  4. It does say a lot. Lost in the psychobabble is one thing it doesn't say enough. It is easily the most relevant and least open for debate: Well said dude. Well said.
  5. Your opinion is greatly appreciated and of value as it echoes the sentiments of my provider. I Just needed to hear it from a third perspective. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
  6. That seems to be the consensus. It's all about comfort and her perspective tends to matter more than my own. I will struggle. Her response to that dictates the value of the session. Second session was two hours. Decided to go unmedicated. This proved to be a mistake. The CS session removed all physical barriers. As intensity grew, I replaced them with mental ones and detached. Again, Nova was observant and adapted. Reeled me back in a few times. The session was of great value. Therapeutic on several levels. I just need to test the waters before I dive in head first. Another session booked. Will be better prepared for what she brings to the table.
  7. Context effects: We associate/recall memories partly based on external factors. The OP provides a perfect example of environmental influences (town, street, place). Memories are associated with all senses: sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. For me, music is as influential as environment. My life can be summarized by a playlist. That is how I bring my sessions home with me. That is why I see music as an accommodation. That is how I benefit in the long run. Green tea. Music. The smell of an oil I forgot to ask about. Try using context effects to your advantage. Chewing gum, mints, deodorants, scented candles, focus on your environment.
  8. Me too! And my 'career' consists of three hours and one provider! We're not all idiots but we do have a tendency to ask idiot questions occasionally. thinking with the wrong brain is a common occurrence with us. Agreed. But thinking with the right brain can be just as disrespectful. Obsessing over protocol, etiquette, hygiene, asking too much, asking too little. I feel the need to be a client worth having. This has resulted in a few questions/comments that may have put her on the spot. Thinking with the wrong brain would work in my favor. Great thread. Hearing from a provider's point of view puts everything in in its right place.
  9. I am of the same opinion. I find ink most attractive when it contrasts innocence or cultural norms. Nothing more intriguing than a clean cut colleague who wears a suit/full sleeves to work everyday of the year. Eventually you bump into them outside of work. The novelty never wears off. The numbingly plain woman you never knew existed you catch a glimpse at her sleeve. Or Confucius based cultures like China and Korea where tattoos are taboo. Your body is a gift from your ancestors. Altering it is considered a slap in the face. This in a society that preaches integration over individualism. Rarely do you see them. When you do, it is like a shot of adrenaline. Cosmetic surgery though, perfectly acceptable. Go figure.
  10. I am reluctant to rate her location/atmosphere as she is planning a move very soon. Will update when I get a chance to see her new place. The following is a review of three hours (two sessions) with Novarella (Nova). It includes three different services: massage, social, and companionship. For those looking for an in depth review of her anatomy and what she can do with it (which is pretty damn impressive), this read will prove a disappointment. Miles, experiences, perspectives will vary. Here is mine. _________________________________________________________________________________________________ [B]First Session: One hour massage[/B] [FONT="]Readers should know three things that weigh heavily on my experience[/FONT] [B][FONT="] [/FONT][/B][FONT=Cambria]- [/FONT][FONT="]This was my first experience period. First massage, first provider, first professional attempt at companionship. [/FONT][FONT=Cambria]- [/FONT][FONT="]I have an affinity for Asian culture, tradition, and women [/FONT][FONT=Cambria]- [/FONT][FONT="]I suffer from OCD and acute SAD.[/FONT] [FONT="] [B]Beauty[/B] Nova is intoxicatingly beautiful. Her galleries, while recent and accurate, do not do her justice. Itâ??s like critiquing [/FONT][FONT="]Salvador Daliâ??s work with one eye closed or [/FONT][FONT="]listening to Mozart through a pair of tin cans. Nova is best observed in all three dimensions. The quintessential mix of natural beauty, exotic appeal, and erotica. [B]Body:[/B] Petite in stature but proportioned in all the right areas. She is of average height considering her heritage. She is fit, toned, yet feminine in all the right places. Thatâ??s right people. I said it. Asians are capable of sporting, excuse my vintage slang, some mighty fine booty. Or is it boody[FONT="]?[FONT="] You know what I'm talking about[/FONT][/FONT]. She is round and f[FONT="][FONT="]irm[/FONT] and tempting as all get out[FONT="]. [/FONT][/FONT] [B]Personality:[/B] Seductive, [FONT="]a bit of a tease[FONT="],[/FONT][/FONT] suggestive, compassionate, strong willed, independent, playful, infectiously positive, [/FONT][FONT="]spiritual, [/FONT][FONT="]intimate yet professionalâ?¦ [B]-Intelligent [/B] Well spoken and well educated. She is passionate about social issues and advocates on behalf of several groups. She understands more about my field than some of my colleagues do. [B]-Self-aware[/B] Due to my level of anxiety and specific triggers/releases, Nova treated me with great care. She talked me through the entire session. She identified and adapted to my level of anxiety via conversation and technique. [/FONT] [B][FONT="]-Existential[FONT="]ly driven[/FONT][/FONT][/B][FONT="] â??Those girls are only in it for the money.â? [/FONT] [FONT="]As far as Iâ??m concerned, sentiments such as these only perpetuate the stereotypes and ignorance that put these women at risk. Of course money is a factor. Money is a factor in all careers. For some, money is the[FONT="] only concern[/FONT]. Others put effort and thought into everything they do[FONT="]. [/FONT]The potential for existential fulfillment can be found anywhere. [FONT="]It [/FONT]All boils down to perspective. Nova[FONT="] says[FONT="] her work provides mean[FONT="]ing[FONT="], I have no [FONT="]reason[/FONT] to doubt he[FONT="]r. [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT]Acco[FONT="]r[FONT="]ding to the community[FONT="], [FONT="]the[FONT="]re are many providers willing to [FONT="]accommodate[/FONT] and [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT]regard intimacy as a means of healing. [FONT="] [B]Age [/B] She [FONT="]looks much youn[FONT="]ger[FONT="] in person[FONT="]. [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT]Being familiar with Asian [FONT="]woman and[FONT="] generational trends[FONT="], [/FONT]I'd put her between [/FONT][/FONT]28-31.[FONT="] She is listed as 32[FONT="].[FONT="] [FONT="]In any case[FONT="], she[FONT="] is remarkably youthful[FONT="]. [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][FONT="][/FONT][/FONT] [B]Facilities:[/B] I did not venture too far. When I did, I was completely preoccupied by anxiety and respecting her privacy. Her bathroom was clean and supplied with soup and fresh towels. The massage room was clean, bright, and inviting. She gave me a minute of privacy as she went to change. The OCD in me took over. I was mainly concerned with the massage table and cleanliness. Cleanliness was all that I found. [B]Session:[/B] I began the massage face down. Without being able to see her, my senses were captivated like a ginger ale rain. They were heightening to the point I would flinch before being touchedâ?¦ like a child in a dentistâ??s chair. This is where Novaâ??s ability to sense my anxiety and adapt to my comfort level really came into play. She tried changing the environment somewhat. She lowered the volume and talked me through the session. This made all the difference in the world. She started with my calves and meticulously worked her way to my head. I wish I could go into more detail but I honestly have no knowledge/experience in massage. All I can say is she worked deep, used a variety of methods, and it felt divine. Having to flip definitely amplified the intensity. I closed my eyes and focused on her touch and voice. By the time she had reached my inner thighs, my anxiety had completely melted away. I was free of distraction and focused solely on sensation. It did not last long. It didnâ??t have to though; she had already surpassed my expectations/goals of the session. My anxiety/meds had left me incapable of arousal for over a year. As far as I was concerned, I was a neutered man. My goal was therapeutic in nature. I needed to be fully exposed, put my trust in a stranger, and push the thresholds of anxiety. She provided more than I thought possible. She gave me some privacy to dress and compose myself. She had a cup of tea waiting for me. We chatted briefly. I thanked her and made arrangements for our next appointment. [B]Recommendations:[/B][/FONT] [FONT="]Again, I am not asserting that Nova is the only provider that sees the therapeutic value in her craft. I do however question every word and every interaction. I am[FONT="] [FONT="]always looking[FONT="] for motive and manipulation[FONT="].[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT] [/FONT]I distrust people in general[FONT="].[FONT="] I may be new[FONT="], but [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT]I am not an easy sell. [/FONT][FONT="] My only regret was not booking a two-hour session. It took me a good 45 to settle in. Had I known how therapeutic the session would proveâ?¦ or that I was capable of such response, I would have booked more time. [/FONT] [FONT="]Based on her beauty, personality, cleanliness, willingness to work a little overtime, my expectations/goals vs the service received, therapeutic value, and her willingness to accommodateâ?? highly recommended. _________________________________________________________________________________________________ [/FONT][B] Second session: Two hour CS session[/B] _____________________________________________________________________________________________ I donâ??t know what kind of session it was. It doesnâ??t really fall into any category. Part social/part CS/part confessional. It was prearranged and tailored to my needs and goals. Nova suggested I do an hour of massage and an hour of CS (it would save me money). I insisted on the two hours of CS. It was time to break new ground. The freedom a CS session offers is worth the extra coin. More than worth it if intimacy is a factor for you. Being restricted to a massage table made me feel like a corpse. It reinforced boundaries, roles, divides and hindered any sense of intimacy. Not to mention the fact that looking up at an Asian gives me vertigo. Not playing into stereotypes. I am just awkwardly tall. I went out on a limb and opted to go unmediated. Anxiety was moderate to start. Last time I spilled tea all down the hallway (mopped it up with my sock). This time I left a ball of chewed gum on her bathroom sink after brushing my teeth. She found it before I remembered. Apologies. We talked for quite a long time. We discussed everything from her cultural background, my medical history, why she does what she does, to music, food, the sacred canopy, mythical archetypes, and how hegemony can promote social change. Unlike the previous session, I was aroused immediately and felt obliged to hide it while we talked. She noticed and took the lead. I was completely at ease. I sat naked, in front of her, and openly joked about my boyish, non alpha, body. We laughed as I attempted to count the hair on my chest-- five. Free at last. I was encouraged to roam, explore, and play. Because of that â??90s AIDS campaign (You not only sleep with your partner, but all of your partnersâ?? partners andâ?¦) I was a tad concerned about STDs. I did not want to offend her but I had to ask. I asked her if I needed to be careful. She said no. I felt guilty for asking. From that point forward I was preoccupied. [FONT="]For some reason I kept on trying to consider the experience from her perspective.[FONT="][FONT="] [FONT="]I [FONT="]wondered[FONT="] how she [FONT="]fel[FONT="]t[FONT="]. I was preoccupied by [FONT="]etiquette[FONT="] and t[FONT="]he need to be client worth hav[FONT="]ing. [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][FONT="][FONT="]She reeled me back in several times[FONT="].[FONT="] A[FONT="]ga[FONT="]in[FONT="], she is highly skilled in[FONT="] [/FONT]that regard[FONT="].[/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT] [FONT="]I simply ran out of time[FONT="]. [/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT][/FONT] Nova is a wonderful companion. In the same session she proved to be warm, affectionate, playful, seductive, dominant, submissive, intimate... like a chameleon in a bowl of skittles. Even more impressive, she knew when to shift colors. She was, exactly what I needed her to be. Will I see her again? Absolutely. She is both an investment, and worth investing in. I will see her until I no longer consider her sessions therapeutic. I will most likely take a few sessions just to appreciate the pleasure of her company. Then, I will move on with life. My sincerest thanks to Nova for all her effort, patience and accommodations. Thanks to all providers that associate intimacy with healing. Hats off to Asia for providing such a fine example of natural beauty and seduction. [B]~SS[/B] [B]PMs welcomed. [/B]
  11. NV: Glad to be of service. I wish I had the same effect on me. I4F: Have you looked at sense by hello? My GP was given one to 'test.' An impressive machine.
  12. Arkaine: Free at last! Liberation is on the horizon. Bunker down and wait her out.
  13. Agreed. People love to challenge Murray and some of his decisions but the man and his scouting team have made the most of their picks/trades. Water into wine. People say the Sens are always outperforming their talent level. That they shoot themselves in the foot when it comes to draft time. I just can't understand the logic. If a team consistently outperforms than how is that considered an anomaly? Besides, the draft guarantees you nothing. Even a top pick. There is always a Daigle lurking in the mist.
  14. Quickly searched the boards and was surprised to find no mention of this. Highly recommended read for: -Exceptional clients (clients with special needs/accommodations) -Providers looking to understand why accommodations are necessary and how to deal with them. -Providers looking to understand the holistic nature of their craft There are many resources out there, the majority of which are academic in nature and plagued by meticulous vernacular. Give Don Shewey a read. He has published a series of articles related to the subject. He describes an SI as follows: I like to say that sacred intimates combine the roles of priest, prostitute, and psychotherapist. In other words, they approach sexuality with the understanding that it's related to soul work and to spirituality. They use mindfulness and integrity to help people identify, embrace, and practice desire as holy, sexual embodiment as an expression of the soul. They hold the body as sacred and view erotic energy as a crucial component of human life and spiritual health. Their primary intention is that of healing -- and by healing I mean not just addressing the wounds to the spirit and the flesh caused by sexual abuse, addiction, or disease but also acknowledging that the fun and the pleasure, the vitality and the divine mystery of sex have nourishing properties in and of themselves. That's a message that easily gets lost in a culture that is as ambivalent or sex-negative as ours. Sacred intimacy has a relationship to sex therapy as it developed in the second half of the 20th century with the work of Masters & Johnson and Helen Singer Kaplan, who performed a great service by bringing accurate information about sex to the American public and developed effective treatments for sexual disorders. Sacred intimates may or may not treat dysfunctions, and they generally work from a wellness perspective, not fixing problems but encouraging and expanding sexual joy. Although it would seem like psychotherapy is the field most appropriate for sexual healing, in practice many psychotherapists are terrified of dealing with sexuality, either because they have their own unresolved sexual conflicts or they are afraid of legal liabilities. How often do psychotherapists acknowledge that they themselves have sex lives? How often do they share information about erotic resources or facilitate detailed explorations of masturbation or sexual fantasies? Today psychotherapists are intensely focused on boundaries and shy away from sexuality lest they be perceived as provocative, seductive, or harassing. However, it's possible that deflecting or avoiding sexual issues reinforces shame and cultural repression" Taken from Don Shewey's article "The Sacred Intimate-- An integrative approach to sexual healing"
  15. Proud sens fan. Sens got away with this one. Easily their worst effort of the series. Dominated for two periods. Anderson made some key saves. Lots of puck luck in this win. I have no problem with Prust/Subban. Love Subban. I would take him over EK in a heartbeat. Immense skill and plays on the edge. Reminds me of a OV in his prime. Again, Sens will take the next home again and lose the series in 7. A win for hockey fans.
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