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dmsdms 05-09-2017 07:31 PM

advice wanted: SP just beginning a serious addiction
 
Hello all. I'm seeking advice. I travel for work and recently was somewhere other than Toronto. I called on an SP after someone else had cancelled. She said she'd never done an out call but it sounded safe enough, and she has been in the biz for more than five years. She came to my hotel. We hit it off. She stayed late and really opened up about all the tragedies in her life. It was sad to hear but like hanging out with an old friend going through hard times.

I was back in that city two weeks later. I called her again. She agreed to another outcall. She showed up four hours late, spent the night, and while it was fun, she smoked crack until 8am. I had to work and couldn't rouse her. I left the room and she eventually got herself up and out.

She had indicated her habit was new. I had had a crack addiction decades ago, I know this doesn't end well or easily. She's a very popular provider, and a really sweet lady who just doesn't see that she has anything left to lose.

What do I do?
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drlove 05-09-2017 09:31 PM

That's sad, and very unfortunate... Be supportive and encourage her to seek help, whether that's in the form of an addictions counselor, rehab facility, family, friends or a combination of these networks...You may also want to talk with her about your own experiences, having gone through it. That way, it won't come across as "preaching", and she may be more apt to listen and consider your advice. Hope everything works out for her!

fortunateone 05-09-2017 11:25 PM

as an ex user, you can't be around that stuff. it isn't being ingested, iit is being inhaled as a smoke and there is zero chance that others around her aren't also inhaling it involuntarily.

so, as much as you might like her, it is based on the first visit when she was (almost) behaving as a professional (rambling on with her sad life story, to me, is just a hustle, but i'm a cynic, and i feel she was trying to solicit sympathy in the way of another appt or extra $$ at the end of this extended session).


she's not your friend, you shared a moment, time for you to protect yourself and your health and move on away from that drama. she had zero respect for your health or your sobriety when she lit up the crack pipe all night long, you owe her nothing.

dmsdms 05-10-2017 03:24 AM

Thanks for hearing me out
 
So, yes. I have tried to send positive messages ... but I can only do so via text and really how effective can that be?

And, I didn't get any sense that this was a scam for more $. I left cash for what would normally be an hourly rate after spending several hours with her, and left her in a hotel room with all my shit including a laptop and what I got was a hand written note thanking me for leaving any money at all ...it was as though she thought we were just expected to hang out as old friends.

More to the point, she was more worried than I was, at the time, about even exposing me to the second hand smoke of her pipe after I had explained my history.

I wasn't being scammed for more $. I wasn't being a mark for a good scam. I really was just one human being offering safe harbor to another human being who was in a bad way .... and now I realize just how bad that way was.

I feel helpless to do more. Is just sending more positive text messages really all that can be done?

Mikeyboy 05-14-2017 10:59 AM

I agree that you need to keep your distance as long as she is using, for your own sake. You can offer her your friendship and support if or when the time comes that she wants to get clean. The fact that you come from a genuine position of understanding in this gives it sincerity. It won't come off as preachy as you have actually been there. There isn't much more you can do for her though until she is ready for help. Maybe the offer of support will make a difference. If not today, then down the road when she is ready. Knowing she isn't alone in it may one day give her the strength.
Best of luck
Mikey

Kadie Lux 05-20-2017 01:53 PM

Wow! Thats nuts. I think it would be healthy for you to stay away and find a new SP to see. Theres plenty of us that are awesome and have great reviews!
Not good to be around someone with that type of addiction and you don't want to get yourself into trouble either. Do what is best for you always!

Victoria Banks 05-21-2017 12:38 AM

Let it go.

Mature Angela 05-21-2017 01:14 PM

In keeping with the spirit of this board, I don't think it's appropriate to post this because you will have people messaging you to find out who this is.

Having been there yourself, you should know that until someone is ready to quit, there is not much you can really do.

dmsdms 05-24-2017 05:11 PM

I will ask the moderator to strike this thread.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mature Angela (Post 789437)
In keeping with the spirit of this board, I don't think it's appropriate to post this because you will have people messaging you to find out who this is.

Having been there yourself, you should know that until someone is ready to quit, there is not much you can really do.

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Grass_Hopper 05-24-2017 05:20 PM

Not all sp s are considered as professional. I tend to judge others pretty quickly, but maybe she s more on a personnal level...

One way or the other, if you decide to get involved, you are probably already aware that addiction is a hell of a monster.

Are you ready to get emotionally involved, with all that it demands?


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