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Old 09-21-2017, 12:37 PM
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It's a touchy subject, a lot of these girls are independent women and don't like to be told what to do.
If you really feel the need to mention something to her but if she doesn't want to have the conversation, let her be. She will have to quit on her own turns and when she wants.
I have never faced that addiction but I've dealt with SPs that have but as a client, I don't feel it's my place to lecture them, unless you have that close enough relationship with her already.

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Old 10-25-2017, 03:04 AM
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It's almost like deja vu reading this because I was in the same perdicament a few years back, but unfortunately it ended in tragedy. My honest opinion on this subject is to protect yourself, because at the end of the day, as much as you want to help this person, you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

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It's a touchy subject, a lot of these girls are independent women and don't like to be told what to do.
If you really feel the need to mention something to her but if she doesn't want to have the conversation, let her be. She will have to quit on her own turns and when she wants.
I have never faced that addiction but I've dealt with SPs that have but as a client, I don't feel it's my place to lecture them, unless you have that close enough relationship with her already.
A client should never have to lecture his SP and the other way around especially when it comes to drug use.

Its very nice of the OP and others to care however she will not stop until she is ready. This could also be never. Gentlemen spend time with us for an uncomplicated and stress free experience. Having someone doing crack on a date is far from that .

From my end if someone came here high on anything you are not staying . It should be the exact same for a client. With so many sober and straight ladies why spend the evening with a strung out person that is not even present?

This is not a slam to anyone who has a problem with anything . We all have issues . I just don't believe its appropriate to for a lady to waste someones time in this manner .

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If you deal with someone with an addiction problem, the best you can do is to politely point her in the right direction and not allow her to consume in your presence.

You took a very huge gamble by allowing her to smoke in your hotel room and also by leaving her alone there. She or a procurer could have robbed or trashed the place. And if she would have ODed, you would be neck deep in problems.

Having sympathy for someone doesn't mean you can't tell her NO. Better show her the door than having to answer questions on why a dead or comatose woman was found in your hotel room.

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But why get that close? I seek out a lady to loose myself for an amount of time I’m not seeking drama or wanting to fix anyone. It is nice to want to help anyone in need but if they’re in need they shouldn’t be advertising their services. Sorry to seem cold but the types of scenarios your speaking of never end happily or successfully for that matter. The best advice has been given here by Katherine and Greg. Best of luck.

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But why get that close? I seek out a lady to loose myself for an amount of time I’m not seeking drama or wanting to fix anyone. It is nice to want to help anyone in need but if they’re in need they shouldn’t be advertising their services. Sorry to seem cold but the types of scenarios your speaking of never end happily or successfully for that matter...
I don't mean to contradict...

I had seen an SP a few times. One day when she came over she asked if I was in a rush and if she could stay a while. After a few minutes she opened up and shared things were becoming difficult with her BF and they were both hooked on crack. A week or so later she phones me and asks to come over, seems things were not going well that day at home for her. She again asks if she could stay a while and get high. She asked if I wanted to join, I declined but said she could go ahead.

Later she really opened up, told me her situation. She wanted to quit but didn't know what to do, where to go. Besides her addiction this woman was one of the kindest women I had met, a sweetheart, beautiful and a good head on her shoulders. She was in a bad place with little money and no friends or family to turn to. I reminded her how great she was, that she deserves better than this and she should get help and start over. She broke down, I hugged and held her for some time while she just cried. Before leaving she thanked me for being there for her and said she would get help.

A few days pass and she calls me. Tells me she left her boyfriend and is going to rehab the next day. Asked to come and see me, not for fun, to talk so she could see me and thank me. She asked me for a picture of myself and wrote down my address info so she could write me while at rehab. She wrote me at least once a week. Told me what I meant to her and that she keeps my picture bedside on her nightstand saying to others there that I'm the guy who saved her. After a few letters I knew it was time for me to write back. I let her know I didn't save her, she saved herself. She simply needed a little guidance and motivation.

When she was done rehab she phoned me and I offered to take her out for dinner. This woman looked up to me, respected me and admired me. I assured her that I knew she could do it but I didn't feel the same way about her. We kept in touch for a while. She straightened her life out, met a man and found a descent job. Eventually we drifted apart and lost touch. I wish her well.

When I first met her I knew nothing about her. I never expected anything like what happened to occur. I could have kicked her out and let her deal with her own issues but what kind of man would I be? This industry is wonderful in many ways, intended for enjoyment. Unfortunately, there exists a dark side to this industry as well. For all the great moments I have enjoyed in the industry it didn't bother me to try and help someone out a little, it felt natural and I would do it again. I hope she is happy, married with kids and loving life. I think of her from time to time, I will never forget her.

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I don't mean to contradict...
I don't consider your experience a contradiction. There some sad stories with happy endings and some not so much. In your case, she opened about her problems and took steps to clean herself up. If she stays away from the environment that got her there, she'll likely live a good life.

In the case of dmsdms, allowing her to consume in his hotel room and leaving her alone uncertain about her condition was pretty careless. This could have ended tragically on top of causing serious legal problems. If he wants to help her, he can meet her off the clock for a coffee and recommend her to seek help. If she doesn't, the best is to leave her alone until she finds the proper motivation to do so.

Helping someone doesn't mean allowing her to hijack your existence. Just point her in the right direction and hope she'll get the message.

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This is an incredibly sad thing to read, but for your own safety and well-being you need to steer clear.
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I have to agree with Mature Angela. Stating that she is a popular provider will only pique people's curiosity and it isn't helpful to her if this information becomes public knowledge associated with her. It will only bring her further down, the absolute last thing she needs. I'm speaking from experience, almost 8 years clean.
I think it's pretty great that you are so understanding of her situation, but let's be honest... Most clients are NOT and in my experience fellow SPs can be even worse. If her name is outed, she will most likely never escape the stigma attached with addiction whether she gets clean for a long period of time or not. Therefore I don't feel that this is an appropriate thread for this board in particular.
Also... addiction is addiction. There is no type that is better or worse.

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