Rendezvous Etiquette

Well, to start this off I should probably state that I'm a fairly anxious person by nature and meeting new people tends to weigh on my nerves a bit. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy it, its just something that doesn't comes easy to me. Now, I'm sure this is a fairly common thing(at least I hope it is, lol), but sadly, being common does not make it pleasant. So I figured I would attempt to remedy some of my anxiety by creating this thread. And who knows, maybe we can help someone else along the way(again, I hope I'm not the only one here with this problem).

Oh, and I am posting here in the hopes of getting a local perspective, since I would assume that a meetings "general procedure" would be set by an escorts respective agency or passed along through networking sites like this, as well as the laws of a given area. Leading to a somewhat regionalized "general procedure". You'll have to forgive me if I have over thought this, lol.

Simply put, I am kind of new to this hobby and I'm looking for a little advice. I believe I have the basics down; clean, timely and such, but I feel like I might be missing some of the finer points. Hiring an escort isn't exactly taught in school, so I'm not really sure whats expected here. Of course I could just be needlessly worrying, but, like I said earlier, I'm nerves by nature and would prefer clarity over ignorance.

Now, this next question might just stem from a lack of "general" practice and is most likely going to come off as if I have none(my childish ego compels me to state otherwise!... sorry), but again clarity over ignorance and such. Basically my next question is: does and don'ts once we have gotten down to business? Obviously, there is a certain level of entitlement, having paid for a service and all, but I don't want to feel too demanding or that I'm the only one having fun(from what I've been told there's an easier and cheaper way to have fun by myself). Should I just play every encounter by ear? Is everything okay until I get a verbal no? Again, I'm probably over thinking this, but it never hurts to have some ground rules.

Lastly and getting a little personnel with this one, tips for relaxing during an encounter? I don't know if I have said this before, but I tend to be a little bit nervous at times. Now, it has never prevented me from rising to the occasion, but it can lead to a certain lack of satisfaction. I actually took up this hobby in the hopes of "self medicating", if you will, since this has led to some embarrassment and would appreciate the advice of anyone who might have gone through the same thing.

Thanks.

PS: One of my other hobbies is writing about things I enjoy. Can you tell?

To sum it up short, when you start the rendez-vous with your new friend, just relax and get all that cleared up before the action starts. Also, some ladies just goes with the flow, as long as it safe.

Well, to start this off I should probably state that I'm a fairly anxious person by nature and meeting new people tends to weigh on my nerves a bit. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy it, its just something that doesn't comes easy to me. Now, I'm sure this is a fairly common thing(at least I hope it is, lol), but sadly, being common does not make it pleasant. So I figured I would attempt to remedy some of my anxiety by creating this thread. And who knows, maybe we can help someone else along the way(again, I hope I'm not the only one here with this problem).

 

Oh, and I am posting here in the hopes of getting a local perspective, since I would assume that a meetings "general procedure" would be set by an escorts respective agency or passed along through networking sites like this, as well as the laws of a given area. Leading to a somewhat regionalized "general procedure". You'll have to forgive me if I have over thought this, lol.

 

Simply put, I am kind of new to this hobby and I'm looking for a little advice. I believe I have the basics down; clean, timely and such, but I feel like I might be missing some of the finer points. Hiring an escort isn't exactly taught in school, so I'm not really sure whats expected here. Of course I could just be needlessly worrying, but, like I said earlier, I'm nerves by nature and would prefer clarity over ignorance.

 

Now, this next question might just stem from a lack of "general" practice and is most likely going to come off as if I have none(my childish ego compels me to state otherwise!... sorry), but again clarity over ignorance and such. Basically my next question is: does and don'ts once we have gotten down to business? Obviously, there is a certain level of entitlement, having paid for a service and all, but I don't want to feel too demanding or that I'm the only one having fun(from what I've been told there's an easier and cheaper way to have fun by myself). Should I just play every encounter by ear? Is everything okay until I get a verbal no? Again, I'm probably over thinking this, but it never hurts to have some ground rules.

 

Lastly and getting a little personnel with this one, tips for relaxing during an encounter? I don't know if I have said this before, but I tend to be a little bit nervous at times. Now, it has never prevented me from rising to the occasion, but it can lead to a certain lack of satisfaction. I actually took up this hobby in the hopes of "self medicating", if you will, since this has led to some embarrassment and would appreciate the advice of anyone who might have gone through the same thing.

 

Thanks.

 

PS: One of my other hobbies is writing about things I enjoy. Can you tell?

Welcome to CERB, and congratulations on your first post!!!...hope to read more from you

Well I'll offer some advice like you requested, and I'm sure other CERBite's will offer their opinion too.

First is to find a lady that interests you. To this end go to the recommendation section on CERB for the city you are having your encounter in, and see which lady you would like to meet. Then contact her, using her preferred method of contact (whether email, pm, text, phone call) and enquire about setting up an encounter. Be a gentleman when corresponding with her, in fact be a gentleman always. Let the lady know when you correspond that you are a newbie, that way any faux pas can be forgiven. She may ask to screen/verify you. That includes your name (real name) phone number, email, board handle confirmed through pm and a reference. Now seeing as this is your first time, you won't have a reference. Be open with the other information, the lady will have other ways to screen you. And verification is a perfectly accepted practice by professional companions, it isn't something to be worried about

Once you schedule an encounter, short of unforeseen circumstances keep your date. Yes life happens, but should it happen, paying the lady a cancellation feel is appropriate.

When you meet for the encounter, be it incall or outcall don't rush anything. First and foremost, her donation should be in plain sight, in an envelope/gift bag and given to her. She may wish to go to the washroom to count it out, perfectly acceptable. She may also wish to contact her driver to let the driver know she is ok. Again this is perfectly acceptable for the lady to do

The lady is meeting you alone for an intimate time together, that doesn't mean immediately when you show up at her place or she shows up at your place you can grab her and tear her clothes off...that's an unforgiveable faux pas. Let the lady take the lead and control the pace. But let the encounter unfold naturally. In short, as you phrased it, play it by ear. And don't worry, you will have a good encounter

In terms of relaxing, first, don't use drugs or alcohol, a lady will cancel if the client appears under the influence. But frankly, at least for me, I don't want to be relaxed, the building anticipation and excitement of the upcoming encounter is half the fun. And even with ladies I have seen before, I still have that anticipation and excitement...but relaxed??? To me relaxed would mean I'm taking the ladies and this lifestyle for granted, and what's the point in that?

Something else to consider with your date. Give the lady a gift and a tip. It is a nice way to show your appreciation for the intimate escape she provided you. Now one thing, if dealing with a lady from an agency forgo a gift. A agency lady gives a cut of her donation to the agency. But give her a tip equal in value to the cost of a tip and gift for an independent lady.

If you are hosting (an outcall to your hotel) make sure your room has all the lights on, bathroom and closet doors open. Yes dimmed lights are all romantic. But a lady may feel unsafe going into a stranger's darkened room. And if you are serving any refreshments, first ask her what she would like when you confirm a encounter. But keep all containers sealed and only opened in her presence. All your actions should make her feel safe.

Just some quick ramblings off the top of my head

Good luck

And have fun

RG

Just wanted to thank you all for responding. I definitely feel better about this now.

And RoamingGuy, your answer to my question about relaxing really got me thinking. I feel now that it might be more about embarrassing the anxiety rather then stifling or pushing it away as I have been. Well, that sounded cheesy.

"Hai! Thank you sensei for placing me on the path to enlightenment."

Thanks for starting this thread Intended.

I've learnt a few things reading the responses to your questions that I hadn't thought of/overlooked.

Madison_Sparks is spot on about communication between you and your SP. I'm new to all this as well, so getting a chance to open a dialogue with the person I'm going to have an encounter with was/is very helpful. It's made me feel more at ease about things. I'm still nervous, and I warned her about that, but it's still an interesting feeling, like a wild roller coaster ride you've never been on before.

As usual madison is right. I remember the first sp I seen I spent most the time just chatting and asking questions. Its worth the time to talk and ask questions. I discovered I wasn't ready to see someone so thanked her for her time gave her a generous tip for being so sweet and understanding and ended up calling the same sp back over a year later. That 30 minute chat taught me a lot. Never hurts to ask but just be polite and respectful. Thanks Madison

Too add to this, there is a thresd in the general area called new to this, things you should know. Highly suggest every new hobbyist read this section!

S

Great post...

I am always nervous even though I'm not a first timer. Good to know I'm not alone. I'm usually to nervous to even think about how the girl is feeling.

-sigh-