Friendship Requests

I know there is a thread on this already somewhere but through all my searches I couldn't find it.

I have noticed lately a lot of new members joining and requesting my and many ladies' friendship on our profiles.

I think there should be a certain etiquette lesson about this again, as some ladies have found lately that there seems to be a certain misunderstanding when a gal clicks "reject friendship" (perhaps we could put a lighter term on the site rather than "reject"? lol).....and this may very well be only my opinion but I have received a few emails lately from members I have not corresponded with who are upset I rejected their requests. (please dont think I'm playing prima-dona here tho)

as an SP I (and most ladies) dont add a member without reason....kinda like facebook. its a networking site and we usually like to know who we are befriending before accepting those requests.

I generally dont add a member unless I have met them. That way, if another SP has a question about a gent on my friends list I am comfortable saying that this is a trusted friend that I have seen and can vouch for.

Quality over quantity.....this is definitely not a site that judges anyone on how many online friends they have

That being said, guys, dont feel bad if a member or an SP doesnt let you in to their friendship circle right off the batt (especially if you are very new or have made no contact with that SP)....rather focus not on what may seem like "rejection" and focus on building your own personality here on cerb and PM communication with those you want to befriend.

most of all...dont take it personally. it causes us a lot of unnecessary stress to you and us for feeling like we've hurt your feelings.. and really, its not something we're not accepting because we dont think you're worthy (most of the time anyway)....we just may not know you. simple as that.

xoxo Annessa

Maybe you're thinking of Emma's thread?

 

http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=10029

thats it. :-)

did a search for "friend/friendship requests" and it didnt turn up, but Emma raises some great points along with many of the other ladies

I think the whole topic of 'friend request' will be as diverse as we have diversity amongst the participants here. I can totally understand that some ladies prefer to meet before accepting 'friendship' and others won't have a problem accepting a friend request if the requester did send a polite "hi, how are you" type email/PM.

 

Perhaps some of the technology enhancements to the site (that mod talked about) might provide a way for members to screen or filter friendship requests or only allow the providers to make friendship requests etc. (for those that prefer that approach).

 

But that said, it is likely better for business if one were to accept a friendship request and still screen the individual based on their follow up communication.

 

I think it is definitely a personal choice just like ladies that prefer email bookings versus phone or PM - but of course great idea to raise the awareness of the diversity by starting the thread.

oh I definitely agree that everyone has their own different way of approaching things like friend-requests just like anything else in the business, thats why I said in my first post that this is only my opinion.

my main concern was the members that sent a follow up PM after not gaining access to certain ladies' friendship circles. I always feel a certain stress messaging them back and apologizing but that I only add ppl under certain circumstances.

This is totally not a vent, but rather an opinion voiced so that these members dont take our decisions personally....like you said, everyone (member OR SP) has their own way of conducting their profile-page.

I just wanted to put it out there that those who have tried and not been accepted to some should focus on the other things that will build their online reputation or online communications....and focus less on a name in their friendship box.

a friendship approval, in most cases, will follow :-)

Maybe you're thinking of Emma's thread?

 

http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=10029

that's what my thread was about too. I really don't want o offend anyone when i don't accept their request be it potential client or sp..it just means i don't know you well enough in one way or another to vouch for you. Or perhaps i know you too well....lmao

that's what my thread was about too. I really don't want o offend anyone when i don't accept their request be it potential client or sp..it just means i don't know you well enough in one way or another to vouch for you. Or perhaps i know you too well....lmao

exactly......I'd rather not offend a potential client or SP in a friendship request but at the same time it just makes sense to only be *friends* with those who are...well....friends (in whatever shape or form)

good point (and humorous one) on the knowing some people *too* well as well Emma, lol. I have had a few this year that I've removed for knowing "too well" ;-)

 

This is a good thread.. maybe post it in the newbie section as well ;)

the thought definitely crossed my mind as I hit the "submit post" button....maybe we could double this or move this over to the newbies section mod?

(reason for posting in general discussion tho was more for the hope that any gent who didn't think he needed the "ropes" of the newb section would notice....I love u men, but not all of u ask for directions.., j/k) ;-)