Virgin

I hope I don't get banned for this, but this is the honest truth. Also if there is a location more appropriate for this post please move it there.

I am 22 and I am a virgin. I have recently considered getting an escort, just to lose my virginity. I often come off as childish and naive, which makes the escort a bit antsy, maybe something they aren't used to seeing in their day to day encounters.

I frequent strip clubs my job and salary all me to indulge myself, but lately as you can understand I have been wanting more and more. I have had girlfriends in the past, very beautiful and intelligent women but never could get myself to look past my vow in sorts to stay a virgin till I am married.

Now having said that, why would i want an escort if I have had such amazing women in my life. I can only blame curiosity and exotic women on here.

I would like to know what peoples thoughts are honestly on the topic, because you only live once and decision of this nature cannot be undone.

Also maybe recommend some women that are gentle with newbies :P

I hope this will spark a decent discussion. I dont by any means mean to offend or but rude to anyone on here. This has been troubling me for the past couple of months please whatever feedback you can give me would be appreciated greatly!

/bababoom :pimp:

at 22 you seem to have your head about you.......you have a job....and you seem balanced enough....

why not go for a little rub and tug first to get over the nerves and see if you are comfortable with it.....

then make your decision on the lady you like......very polite email conversations explaining your situation can help the woman understand what you are dealing with.....I do not know of many women who would turn down the chance of taking your flower so to speak...

I would tend to stick with some one who shows maturity ...

Going to the strip club is one thing getting an escort is another. You have to get naked also. I have had some great times at the club and gotten some nice coments from the dancers. I also wanted to know what it felt like for real. I hired an escort from an agency. I hired her for three hours. She was very pretty really nice and I was scared as hell. We talked for an hour I think she was a little bit scared too. She asked me what I wanted and I was really shy and very embarrased. Then she asked if she could kiss me and I said of course because you can't really kiss in the club. We kissed for almost two hours she said that with most people she has to push them away but she let me kiss her which was wonderful. We had to take a water break from all the kissing. I started noticing my time was running out I still had my pants on and she still had her panties. I didn't want to force myself on her so I politely told her that I would like to remove my pants. By the time I got around to the sex part I was spent and ended up ejaculating on her before I could really penetrate her. Make sure you take all your clothes off at the start of the session and not the end. I do not know if she was hoping to set me off before I could have sex with her. Any way I should have had more stamina and not have being so nervous I am responsible for my own actions and body. So I don't know if I am still technically a virgin or not. Like anything practice makes perfect. She told me that I could try again another time. The experience has kind of left me with some self doubt about my abilities. I would like to try again just gotta relax and get more practice. Sex is not just physical it really is mental too.

Hey bababoom,

Nothing wrong with being a virgin, rumour has it that everybody here was one at one time :) You mention in your post that you've dated some women in the past, but couldn't get past your vow to save your virginity for marriage. However, now you'd like to see an escort to lose your virginity.

This suggests to me that you've had opportunities in the past which you chose not to pursue (which is perfectly fine!), which in turn leads me to believe that civvie opportunities in the future will not necessarily be too hard to come by. In that case, you're definitely in a better situation that some of us (ahem) who just can't get laid outside of the hobby, for one reason or another.

With all that in mind, and at your age, I would argue that you have a luxury in deciding whether you ultimately lose your virginity in a civvie versus a hobby context. My honest opinion is that there's nothing wrong with either approach, just go with what you feel comfortable with. While it's worth taking the time to decide, it's not something you should fret to much over, good luck whatever you decide!

Edit: P.S. there's nothing wrong with your question, and it would have been fine in either the general section (more eyes looking at your post) or your local discussion section.

Interesting thread. In your post you said you have a vow to save yourself for marriage. This must be important to you. And the fact that you have dated beautiful woman and not taken advantage of opportunities is admirable to your conviction to your vow. Maybe your attracted to the risk and not the actual act itself. Antlermans advice is good. Check out the recommendations, pick a great lady and talk to her. Maybe just start slow - massage, rub & tug and go from there.

What ever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.

I say go for it your 22. I suggest Sin Cindy she is hot and passionate!!!!

why thanks Emma.....:bowdown:

You've waited this long stay true to your faith. That said, if you are going to lose your virginity I would think it would be better with a girlfriend.

My first wasn't with a girlfriend but it was with my best friend at the time (yes, a girl :P). I was 18 at the time, now I'm in my mid thirties and we've always remained very close (no, not in that way). It was with someone who was, and remains, a very important person in my life, so I have no regrets. That said I agree with most here that a SP probably isn't the best idea for your first. Nothing against the wonderful ladies in this profession, a great deal of them are great ladies who provide a wonderful service, but that's just what it is, a service. I've always felt that the first time should be with someone close to your heart, you want there to be an honest connection, whether that be with a wife, girlfriend, or in my case, a close friend. Maybe I'm just old fashioned that way. Now sometimes a connection will be felt between yourself and a SP, but sometimes there isn't. And you really won't know till you get there. Now by connection I don't mean that you could develop a relationship with her, that's nothing you should ever expect from a SP (or dancer for that matter), they're not there looking for a boyfriend or husband, but a connection in the sense that you just know something clicked and that it's a memory that will stay with both of you. Problem being that even in those instances where you feel there is a connection with a SP, you may find yourself questioning if that connection was genuine or just part of the "service". That kind of doubt is never something you should be feeling for your first time.

Long winded though it may have been, I guess my point is that I think you should wait it out until you find that special someone, there's no rush. Doesn't necessarily have to be your wife, unless your belief structure requires it to be so, in which case I say go with that. But it should definitely be with someone special. All women are special in their own way, but I mean someone special to you specifically.

You've waited this long stay true to your faith. That said, if you are going to lose your virginity I would think it would be better with a girlfriend.

If he currently has a girlfriend and in a relationship I would agree, but he said he had girlfriends in the past. And in this day and age, I don't think any future girlfriend would fault him for not being a virgin...likely potential future girlfriends won't be virgins either

Also, Mrs Right may never come along (happened, or didn't happen depends on how you look at it, to me, and I'm 49) , and he may be saving himself for a woman that he may never get

Like others have said, read reviews and profiles, and go from there

Good luck, and have fun

RG

I'd agree with mduckm, the opportunity to hook up with a girlfriend will come up. I'd wait for it to happen. Like you, I also waited a while before having sex, there were plenty of opportunities, and there will be plenty more. Good luck.