Honey at Barbarella's

Here is another one at Barbs. She goes by the name of Honey. She is a cute brunette, shoulder length hair, about 5'5 with an olive copmplexion and a few tatoos. She very easily offers outcall service but wants money up front. Guys/gals, don't get caught. I did not too long ago and felt so damn stupid. We went to a hotel and, while I was booking, she was on the phone. Ok, no big deal... Once in the room she said she did not have any condoms so we went out to get some. I crossed the street and she turned in another direction, jumped in a waiting cab and poof! gone.

I feel so stupid about this but I also feel a need to let you all know so this does not happen to you.

Thank you for warning others and please don't be ashamed. If anyone should be ashamed, it's her!

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Thank you Megan for your support. In the end however, it is humiliating to see someone jump in a cab with your money and disappear, regardless of how you look at it. But people like her do not care and this is frustrating.

Nevertheless, I placed that in my lessons learned folder :) and am happy to give a heads up.

Cheers

That would seem to be a very profoundly dumb thing for her to do given that you could show up looking for her again.

Not that you will get your money back.

That really sucks! Thanks for warning others. Chalk it up as a lesson learned...stick the recommended girls here on CERB.

I was close to a similar situation about six months back at the Fax, 2 hot blondes (sorry can't remember names) I had Champagne Room dance with offered a duo at a nearby hotel. They wanted payment up front (this was like 11pm) and promised they meet me out front at closing. Lucky for me by big head took charge and I passed. Who knows but it just didn't feel legit...

That would seem to be a very profoundly dumb thing for her to do given that you could show up looking for her again.

When I was dancing, I found that the dancers who ripped off clients were usually travelling from another city (often Montreal) and since they would be finished at the club in a day or two, they didn't care if they got barred.

Megan - Bingo. This girl is from Montreal... and is probably back in Montreal until she hits another club.

Thank you so much for your input.

know what? I went back to Barb's and there she was... I looked at her, she saw me, and I think she understood who she was looking at...seemde like she knew what she did but at tha same time, it seemed like she could not care less... honestly! I told her and now, even more, she could not care less... this girl does not have very high human values...

I am not he policing type and am rather shy... but I have been taken by this girl and need to let evryone know... any ideas how I can let her know that what she did is inappropriate and known to a large community?

Thanks

Nightflight,

I understand some of the feelings that you may feel after being robbed and betrayed like that. I imagine you would feel very violated and somewhat humiliated too.

That being said, I don't think there is anything to be gained from confronting her. I knew the dancers like these, and they think it's funny to rip off men and since 99% of men who go to Barbarella's will never read this section, I doubt she could care less.

It is unlikely you will get an apology from her or any kind of emotional reaction. I don't think you will feel better after confronting her, in fact you might feel worse. She knows exactly what she did and if doing it didn't make her feel bad, talking to you certainly won't either.

You did your part by reporting it here, and as difficult as it may be, I would suggest considering this incident to be a learning experience and moving on.

Megan

No worries lol. I am really not the confrontational type and I do understand that it would get one nowhere anyway. People like that may not understand what they do, or they simply do not care. Thank you all so much for your support and advice.

Hopefully this thread will have been useful to others. :)

keep on moving buddy

you're not the first nor the last

we all wish this type of things didnt ever exist

Well you did teach me a lesson, and I'm sure hundreds others who've read this thread so you are making a difference. Thank you.

When you walk into a strip club you check your feelings at the door. Strip clubs are all about TNA. Strippers are not bad people. Yes there job is to tease, hence strip tease, sweet talk you hustle you and make you feel like you're the only one. They give away just enough to keep you wanting more and coming back for more. That is the nature of the business. They cannot give away too much now.

It is called a gentlemen's club so be polite about it. Yes it is not nice to ogle and grope women and treat them like sex toys. Strippers sacrafice alot plus sometimes they are a little bit buzzed and vulnerable. So mind your manners, mind where you place your hands, compensate the girl for her time and count your lucky stars that someone came to sit down beside your sorry ass. Every encounter with a stripper is different some good, some okay, some are a pleasant surprise and some are god damn freaking amazing, moments that will stay with you for the rest of your life.

I danced with Honey once, she is pretty and it was a nice moment. Sure any red blooded man will always want more but all is not fair in love and war and business is business. Sometimes you gotta be happy with what you get.

Thanks for sharing your story. I can imagine it's not easy admitting you've been had, even though you did nothing wrong.

Sharing the story here is a service to us all and is appreciated.

This is a tricky business. I can only venture to say that I suspect more women in the business get ripped off than men... There are nasty people on both sides of the transaction.

It's a world of illusion - it's why we love it. Sometimes I forget that part. And in the heat of the moment, it's easy to do things we wouldn't do were out heads clear.

Again, thanks for taking the time to post the story.

Wow man, I just joined cerb recently and I sure am glad I did. The last time I got laid was three years ago. Basicaly I married a nun, I get nun, lol! I've been thinking about seing a service provider for about two years now. I just never had the balls to go threw with it. I was always afraid of what could happen. After reeding this warning of yours I'm not sure I want to go down this road anymore. ;(

Do you think a stripper really likes getting buck naked in front of complete strangers? No. Like the song says she works hard for her money so you had better treat her right. I am sure some of them can make as much as a corporate lawyer, business man, a politician, doctor or chief engineer. Keep that in mind because those guys are your competition. Like the song says there is no sex in the champagne room. If your a guy don't whine and cry like a sissy. Keep in mind that you are in a strip club. If you go in there with any kind of expectations your night is over before it even began. If the stripper is smart she will want u back as a repeat customer. If you had sex with her, you may not dance with her again. But instead try and have sex with another stripper. The illusion is that the guy actually thinks he has a shot at sex. If you really want sex look the part. Have the clothes, have lots of cash, have the condoms and pre-book a five star hotel room. This way you can call the girl's bluff. Problem if she refuses. Obviously if your a gentleman you walk away without your money.

This thread has veered far away from the purposes of this section. If someone wishes to continue it I recommend the stripclub discussion area.

Cheers.

Hey Guardian,

thanks for all the tips, you seem to have a lot of experience, and most of what you say seems quite logical. More importantly, I think your comments help us see the environment for what it really is.

The only thing is I don't see this is quite relevant to our friend Nightflight's incident. He clearly has done nothing wrong. You may disagree with him that he was heading to a hotel with 'Honey,' but if they agreed, they agreed. I feel your comments make it look like he was being stupid. I mean, for all we know, the same thing could of happened with an SP. I'm also understanding from your comments that because strippers have it hard, people shouldn't whine about getting ripped off?

I don't know, but I all for respect both ways and in any type of environment.

Nightlife, I am just like you bro. I hate confrontations and I definitely would NOT even talk to her if I ran into her again. If she's that low, than she might stoop even lower and start yelling in front of everyone that YOU ripped her off.

Learn the lesson and move on.

Hey Guardian,

thanks for all the tips, you seem to have a lot of experience, and most of what you say seems quite logical. More importantly, I think your comments help us see the environment for what it really is.

The only thing is I don't see this is quite relevant to our friend Nightflight's incident. He clearly has done nothing wrong. You may disagree with him that he was heading to a hotel with 'Honey,' but if they agreed, they agreed. I feel your comments make it look like he was being stupid. I mean, for all we know, the same thing could of happened with an SP. I'm also understanding from your comments that because strippers have it hard, people shouldn't whine about getting ripped off?

I don't know, but I all for respect both ways and in any type of environment.

Nightlife, I am just like you bro. I hate confrontations and I definitely would NOT even talk to her if I ran into her again. If she's that low, than she might stoop even lower and start yelling in front of everyone that YOU ripped her off.

Learn the lesson and move on.

I don't think anyone is blaming the victim here. We are just recognizing the fact that what Nightflight did was a high risk activity. This does not mean in any way that what she did was ok or that he is responsible for her actions. The chances of being ripped off by a reputable SP who has been around for awhile and has consistent positive feedback are very low. In fact, in my 2 years in this industry I've never heard of it happening. The chances of being ripped off by a stripper are, unfortunately, reasonably high. I remember as a dancer the women would talk about shit they pulled and laugh about it. It disgusted me! But in the end I was rewarded with amazing regulars that treated me well, whereas they could not keep a client.

As far as I am concerned, lesson learned and I have moved on. I agree with Megan though as this is very rare with a reputable SP. In fact, it never happened to me in many years. I have also had very good experiences with dancers. Actually, in 15 years, I never had one similar bad experience... this was a first... and a last. Again, lesson learned... life goes on. Special thanks to all of you who supported me. Cheers!

We all know that you should never, never, ever pay in advance. I did give an insanely hot beautiful dancer a little cash in advance, didn't work, never does. I blame myself for being that stupid when I look back at it.

Its kind of a rule, if I get asked about that, my response is 'how dumb do you think I am"?

As far as I am concerned, lesson learned and I have moved on. I agree with Megan though as this is very rare with a reputable SP. In fact, it never happened to me in many years. I have also had very good experiences with dancers. Actually, in 15 years, I never had one similar bad experience... this was a first... and a last. Again, lesson learned... life goes on. Special thanks to all of you who supported me. Cheers!

i am sorry that happened to you, but one of the golden rules is never cash upfront. You are not the only one this has happened to, but most guys are too proud or too emberrassed to admit it publicly. There is no good that can come out in confronting her, as she may agree to meet you later to pay you back, but when you get there they may be a couple of guys there also waiting for you. Better to lose a couple of dollars, than losing a couple of legs. For fs, stick to cerb ladies, much safer, and much better ladies.

This has happened to naive me a few times. Things get hot and heavy in the CR and dancer teases you and baits you for further activities outside the CR ( take-out). Meanwhile the dances pile up as the dancer offers a little preview of things to come. Phone numbers are exchanged, I would add: never give out yours. The rendez-vous never happens, as her cell number is a phony, or she never answers. Like an idiot, you are all excited despite no phone confirmation, you show up at discussed meeting place. However no-one is there.

However you are probably out at least a hundred dollars or so for phony promises in the CR.

Moral of the story these dancers are not your friends, if you want sex there are lots of better and chaeper options out there. Like CERB recos.

As far as I am concerned, lesson learned and I have moved on. I agree with Megan though as this is very rare with a reputable SP. In fact, it never happened to me in many years. I have also had very good experiences with dancers. Actually, in 15 years, I never had one similar bad experience... this was a first... and a last. Again, lesson learned... life goes on. Special thanks to all of you who supported me. Cheers!

I feel sorry this happened to you but you do have to take some responsibility as well Strippers are Strippers very rarely are you going to get one that will do extras on the side. That's why i dont' see strippers anymore if i want sex i call Karine or another escort. I prefer escorts because there are no real games when i want sex i call her and she pretends she like my geeky body simple as that.