so what's NEW.. to you?

Anyone care to share their thoughts on what constitutes a 'new' SP? I don't mean on CERB in particular, just in general. How long is a 'working girl' a 'working girl' before she is no longer considered to be new at it?

to the SP's I ask:

How long did you think of yourself as new? One week, a month, a year? 5 appointments? ten? were you perhaps gone and back again before you would say if asked, no, I'm not new? Has it differed with other SP's you've known? If so, how?

can't forget the hobbyists:

how many dates do you have with an SP before you'd stop viewing them as new? 1, 2, 20? and if you don't book for whatever reason, how long do they advertise themselves before you stop referring to them as 'new to the business'?

Inquiring minds want to know! Happy posting!

As long as she has a fresh creative and engaging personality I don't think the newness ever wears off for me :)

Well from this guy's point of view, the ladies I've met for the first time are new, to me. And these are ladies that are, so far, in my case, been on the scene for a while, some before I began seeing ladies. But the first encounter with a lady is, and will always be new to me

And for the ladies I have, or will see again, obviously not new. But it becomes like seeing a friend again, obviously with the caveat, within the confines of the SP/Client relationship

Don't know if that makes sense or helps the discussion

RG

I would think a lady is always new, depending on who sees her, ive been around town for 5 years, and im new to the people who havent seen me before. And even some of my regualrs have told me that i look different all the time (i dont know how, i guess just in their eyes) so, its like being with someone new. Ive also had gentlemen reffer to "new" as younger also

So, its all in the eye of the beholder

just a few thoughts

great thoughts on this topic so far, think Ill add a bit more detail to the question I posed.

I'm wondering because:

I sometimes get asked if I'm new or if someone else I know is new. Plain and simple. I might gain insight on how I might answer this better, when asked of me.

(side note: this has nothing do do with my recent change of name, interestingly enough)

The reason I think people should answer is that:

It could prove very helpful to new SP's or other 'experienced' SP's who are also asked about being new.

That being said, this was just to shape the thought/comment process further. thoughts on advertising angles, experiences are also greatly helpful as well as fun to enjoy and talk about!

So keep on posting! :biggrin:

Well, I would let the gentleman know how long you've been around for, and maybe the names you used to go by, just so the gentleman would have a clearer understanding of who you are, and/or if hes seen you before. Hope that helps

New, relatively new, not so new...to me are just terms used to pigeon hole someone or something. Along the same lines as we classify music as soft rock, hard rock, classic rock, etc. To me a lady stops being new, well I don't know when. I guess when you can look back and say "I remember when she first started" then you can classify her as no longer new. An interesting topic to be sure, one that I don't have the answer to but an interesting topic non the less.

Yeah ... if a gent asks a lady whether she's new, it's good for her not to treat it as a simple yes/no question. She can use the opportunity as a conversation-starter, to tell him a little bit about herself - whatever she feels comfortable sharing.

As for being new in any job (thinking back in my pre-retirement days), my own feeling was that I always felt new at a job until I'd seen it through the twists and turns of an entire business cycle. In the "regular" working world, that's often a year, encompassing such things as holiday sales rushes, the closing of accounting periods, periodic specialty orders, production capacity planning, etc. My impression is that escorting, too, has certain of its own seasonal and yearly ebbs and flows - although as a client I'm not necessarily competent to pronounce on that, or how long the escorting "business cycle" really is.

Another way of looking at the phenomenon of being "new" in escorting is in relation to the initial "startup" cycle. A "rush" or "buzz" ripples through the client community when a lady makes her first appearance. Once the bulk of the existing potential clientelle (those who regularly peruse whatever advertising vehicle you're marketing yourself through - be it a directory, board, newspaper, etc) have either met you or made their decision not to meet you, then you're no longer "new" to that particular niche of potential clients. Typically, but again depending on how you're marketing yourself and what you're personally aiming for, the initial rush of curious clients will gradually "peter out" a bit (ha ha), and you'll be left, more or less, with a relatively stable base of regulars, complemented by a steady (though less numerous than at first) flow of first-time clients. This transition would signal the end of your "newness", in one sense.

I would have to think it would relate to the context in which it is being used. I suppose when we look at new in general, within a year at something would be fairly new, but each person will have their own definition. Back to the context in which you are using it - a person could be new to the business, new to the area, new to teh agency, new to being an independent or even with a new name. I would say being somewhat straight with the way in which you are using the word new is best. That is my 2 cents.

A lot of guys like new SPs that haven't been in the business for years and years. SPs that have just started or been around for under a year.

Some guys may like to see the same SP a few times or all the time.

Some guys like to try new girls all the time.

Again, the power of the review boards, give guys a chance to really see how long a girl has been around.

I read posts all the time about girls that have been around for years but just kep changing there name.

I personally stay away from those ones.

I don't think an SP that has been doing this for decade is for me

New, relatively new, not so new...to me are just terms used to pigeon hole someone or something. Along the same lines as we classify music as soft rock, hard rock, classic rock, etc. To me a lady stops being new, well I don't know when. I guess when you can look back and say "I remember when she first started" then you can classify her as no longer new. An interesting topic to be sure, one that I don't have the answer to but an interesting topic non the less.

have to say, I really like this post. I appreciate your honesty. I know its not a simple question to answer, its really all about our own individual thoughts. thanks steve, for showing your appreciation for my topic.