so how does it start? noob here.

okay so i call the girl, arrange meeting time, do i pay her cash before we start or half now and half after.

or full amount now adn say i give yo extra if i am satisfied.

and after that the important thing is:

do u just jump right to the sex? or do you talk for a bit, or drink something.

donno it would be kinda weird (?) to just grab her boobs and get to it the moment she enters the motel door. (motel or hotel ?)

also i kinda have a moral dillema.....i think its just sex, but then it feels so dirty, but then i need sex, then it feels dirty...but it need sex :oops::oops::oops:

So many members here are going to jump on you for this post I think and I want to reply before that happens!

First: Your on your own with your Moral Dilemma as you need to get over that or you won't enjoy your visits. You should not feel "Dirty" or have any other hangup like that.

Now.... I am not sure how old you are (I don't want to offend you but the post reads like you are very young - possibly too young to be on this site and maybe searching for some answers)... I say this because of the wording (for example: "just grab her boobs and get to it the moment she enters the motel door")... If you just grab someones breasts I think you would probably be starting off on the wrong foot and may not appreciate what comes next! - First rule is you treat the ladies with respect as they are not some object you are paying for.

So on with your questions....

Q: do i pay her cash before we start or half now and half after. or full amount now adn say i give yo extra if i am satisfied.

A: You pay the lady upfront the full amount (Nothing less) and some ladies will ask you to have it in a envelop and tell you where to place it in the room in advance (when you make the booking). If you enjoy your time then tipping is a VERY nice thing to do. Some people tip upfront as well when they know the lady is genuine (and sometimes if some early chemistry is in the air - you will find thread on this subject here if you search for it)

Q: do u just jump right to the sex? or do you talk for a bit, or drink something.

If it's your first time with an escort I think you may want to let her know this. Be polite and respectable. Most of the ladies would prefer that you take a shower first (if you search you will find a thread on this as well) some guys come out naked, undies, etc.. but the ladies like a bathrobe from the sounds of it.

Finally... you do not NEED sex. You most likely have a hand and if lucky you have two of them! Having sex with a partner is just a nice bonus. Your feeling dirty comment worries me and I think maybe you have some religious or moral upbringing hang ups that you really need to overcome before you consider this as an option for you.

I am sure some of the ladies and some of the guys here will add to this - I hope they go easy on you!

Thanks mod...you said it all....but now I've got no where to jump!!! ha ha:mrgreen:

LOL that post brings back memories ......

Mod forgot one thing Be prepared to become addicted to the hobby AFTER you get over the guilty / feeling dirty part.

You can cut back but you never really quit!

Loki

I've been known to pay big money to feel dirty.

Dirty is good...

Why bother paying if you're not going to get dirty? That is the point after all lol.

Be prepared for your knees to shake lol that will go away in time although.

Be polite, kind and respectful and enjoy.

Ok seriously now, I'm only human and get nervous too...especially if the girl is more attractive then I expected or so hot I'm afraid to touch her!

I usually start with some small talk then if I'm really nervous and not comfortable hugging or kissing the girl, I just sit beside her and say something like "Wanna make out now?" This usually brings a laugh but always brings the girl towards me and I'm sure you know the rest.

Inquire with the various ladies on the board that peak your interest, let them know that you are a first timer and will need even the obvious pointed out. Some of them will tell you that they would prefer to not be your first others get a kick out of breaking in the newbies. It is a very natural and regular thing with a ritual that has developed and passed down over the years.

If you want a good primer look here first;

http://sex.perkel.com/escort/

And good luck, enjoy, yourself and stay of jail And try avoid all those nasty STD/STI's!! :D

That's actually a great site for newbies dummpy. It actually answers every possible question and reservation they have. I wish I had known about this site when I started, would have helped out immensely!

Inquire with the various ladies on the board that peak your interest, let them know that you are a first timer and will need even the obvious pointed out. Some of them will tell you that they would prefer to not be your first others get a kick out of breaking in the newbies. It is a very natural and regular thing with a ritual that has developed and passed down over the years.

 

If you want a good primer look here first;

http://sex.perkel.com/escort/

 

And good luck, enjoy, yourself and stay of jail And try avoid all those nasty STD/STI's!! :D

The following web site provides an excellent overall working guide for "escort virgins". I learned a lot from it myself although I've found that you have to keep your escort "engine" tuned up otherwise it can be a case of "use it or lose it". A couple of years ago I was doing it two or three times a month (essentially with one lady) but I can count on one hand my encounters in the last 18 months. Just go with the flow is the best advice that I can give. Most escorts are decent down-to-earth people who will do their very best to show you a good time. Whether or not they really enjoy it physically is another matter, but most do derive satisfaction from traveling with you into the Promised Land and bringing you back fully satisfied.

http://sex.perkel.com/escort/

Sorry, I didn't notice that Dummpy had already referenced the perkel.com site!

Sorry, I didn't notice that Dummpy had already referenced the perkel.com site!

No worries Tip-Drill, it has been my experience that newbies need to read or see something three times before it sinks in anyway :D between my original post, Spuds reference to it and your post they should get the message! I like the other stuff on the site too great primer for ladies trying to break into the business!

Actually I just go to talk with the lady. i'm way too shy and nervous to get naked or nasty. What do the rest of you guys think?? should I get dirty???:mrgreen:

ROFL, I just made a comment in another thread abouy nooby questions that relates perfectly to this thread. There are some people that have no idea. but kudos for at least asking the questions a lot of people wouldn't have the balls to.

My first post!

And maybe some small advice to other newbies out there after my disastrous first experience with an SP a few weeks back...

To make a long story short, or should I say limp, I was completely unprepared for my first time. This was my first time stepping out away from home and even though she was so, so, so damn fine, the lack of emotional connection to the woman really through me for a loop.

And in hindsight, it's not really surprising. Afterall, I have been with the same woman for over ten years. All the buttons I push at home that give me the right signals, well, they just weren't in play for me on this night, and so, I found it disappointingly mechanical, somewhat predictable. Standing before the buffet where I could have anything I wanted, well, the menu just didn't seem that enticing.

And so to the newbies reading this, well, just be prepared. This is different than doing it with the receptionist or the mom down the street.

When I started there was no internet in the way there is now :) it was word of mouth yellow pages and a pick up a the bar club or local peeler palace :)

A place like this with lots of info for the first timer and a chance to "virtually" meet a lady get to know her on chat and by email goes a long way to sooth the nerves at the first meeting :)

this hobby has been very "rewarding" for me but you have to know what you like ie: someone who like a young submissive type should not go with an older PSE type provider ....especially at first LOL

Loki318

"I was so much older then,I'm younger than that now" :)

My first post!

 

And maybe some small advice to other newbies out there after my disastrous first experience with an SP a few weeks back...

 

To make a long story short, or should I say limp, I was completely unprepared for my first time. This was my first time stepping out away from home and even though she was so, so, so damn fine, the lack of emotional connection to the woman really through me for a loop.

 

And in hindsight, it's not really surprising. Afterall, I have been with the same woman for over ten years. All the buttons I push at home that give me the right signals, well, they just weren't in play for me on this night, and so, I found it disappointingly mechanical, somewhat predictable. Standing before the buffet where I could have anything I wanted, well, the menu just didn't seem that enticing.

 

And so to the newbies reading this, well, just be prepared. This is different than doing it with the receptionist or the mom down the street.

Big Al, Though this is your first post, you have already added a great insight here for our newbie...may you find the adventure that you are seeking...

Tigerclaw

This post made me remember my first time back in the 90's...The gal (yes I even remember her name) was pretty hot and the experience was so good that I called her back about an half hour later and booked another apt.

This brings me back as well to my first time with an SP. It was in Montreal and I booked a same day Saturday afternoon appointment. We met at the hotel and I was quite nervous not knowing what to expect and she knew it. She was very sexy, relaxed, and a lot of fun to be with. We spent a couple of hours together and just enjoyed each others company not watching the clock at all. I've seen her many times since, always great.

Just contact one of the lovely ladies and tell them it's your first time. They have seen it all and will put you at ease. Make sure to be respectful and all will be fine.

Enjoy!!!

My first SP experience was with Lili Love - she broke me in well, I think. I still shiver (in pleasure) at the memory.

hey guys,

thanks for all the wonderful inputs :-D

My first SP experience was with Lili Love - she broke me in well, I think. I still shiver (in pleasure) at the memory.

wow that is quite the first time experience by the sounds of her from other hobbiests.

I would echo all the comments made by others...try to go for one who is well recommended on here and has a nice incall location...hotels can make you really nervous...I know I was my first time...felt like all the staff was watcing me and that the cops were in the lobby and might very well be behind the door when it opened.

I'm over it now but still get nervous when meeting a new lady.